Saturday, October 23, 2010

Muddling along

It's been quite a while since posting on here and I think that is mainly a good thing.  I certainly have enjoyed feeling better the last few weeks and I'm positive the nicer weather has had an impact on me.  In complete contrast to yesterday which was sunny, warm and about 28C, today is gloomy and raining with 19mm of rain falling overnight.  I do love the rain for the garden, for adding water to our water reservoirs but please bring back the sun.  PLEASE!!!

I found the stress reducing commandments below over on the delightful blog Marigold Jam.
I've seen them somewhere else before but had completely forgotten about them.  I think I might just have to add them as a permanent fixture on this blog to remind myself how important they are.

1 Thou shalt not be perfect nor even try to be
2 Thou shalt not try to be all things to all people
3 Thou shalt leave undone some things which ought to be done
4 Thou shalt not spread thyself too thin
5 Thou shalt learn to say "No"
6 Thou shalt schedule time for thyself and thy supportive network
7 Thou shalt switch off and do nothing regularly
8 Thou shalt be boring, untidy, inelegant and inattentive at times
9 Thou shalt not ever feel guilty
10 Especially thou shalt not be thine own worst enemy but thy best friend

I've certainly learnt some of the things on this marvellous list, others I fail at dismally.  I grapple with No. 1 continually.  I am a perfectionist by nature so living with untidyness drives me nuts.  

I would like to add another commandment to this list, 'Thou shalt not apologise to anyone for who you are.'   It's very easy to be concerned about what other people think of you when your house is less than tidy and needs a good clean.  You are still in your Pj's at 11.00am on a Saturday morning blogging when other people are out doing the weekly shop, taking the kids to sport or doing some other industrious thing.  Your mind is on some wonderful creative activity instead of making sure your daughters school clothes are being washed so she will have something to wear come Monday morning.  All in good time, it will get done eventually, just not yet.  Surely it's time for a nap.

Today might be a little less wonderful than yesterday but I'll find some things to make me smile.  I'll daydream a bit more about designing images for a lino print and try and try to loose the feeling that I might make a mistake and mess it up.  (The perfectionist side is coming out).  I'll take pleasure in the fact that yesterday I made a lovely shell and button hanging thingy to put out in my garden room.  And I'll certainly be smiling when my hubbie walks back through the door after taking Miss G. to swimming squad.
I hope everyone finds something to smile about today.



  1. So, so good. Totally love these. I think your 11 is actually an extention of 1 because when we apologise we are trying to feel perfect or more so anyway. I definitely do number 4. That's why I keep needing new clothes. lol These are so good I might just copy them and send them on to some friends. Hugs to you cherrie

  2. Oh Cherrie, your comment about No. 4 made me laugh. I love your sense of humour.

  3. So glad you found the commandments useful - I copied them out years ago when I was suffering too and kept them to refer to. The one I have most difficulty with even now is Number 10! Hope you will indeed find something to smile about and if not then the word ACCEPTANCE (as per Dr Claire Weeks) is a lifesaver! Good luck on your journey.


  4. It is a good list isn't it? I like your 11th commandment, a lot. Your comment about messing things up really stuck a chord. I think that's why I put off starting thing a lot of the time. Hope you have a good weekend.

    Sue x

  5. A wonderful list. I particularly like number 7 and find a little meditation helps to put things in perspective.
    Thanks for posting this and I hope your weekend has been a good one.
    Eve x